Dating in today’s society is a fuckin trip. The old fashioned way of asking a person out is , for the most part dead. Now we have dating apps that allow us to swipe endlessly through potential matches. The only problem with that is…well actually there’s more than one. First off , these dating apps support looks first, and personality later. They say don’t judge a book by it’s cover but that’s exactly what people do on these. They have crooked teeth…swipe left. Not fit enough…swipe left. Not vaccinated …left. (Apparently that’s a real one , according to friends) People are searching for someone based off looks alone when in reality they could be a great match regardless of what they look like. Look at Jay-Z and Beyoncé. But, I have to admit I am guilty of this as well. I have met some guys through friends or family who weren’t exactly lookers or my type, but turned out they had a great personality, so we hit it off. Most of them turned out to be assholes in the end, but I’ll save those stories for another blog.

Finding your perfect match, someone that you really connect with where things just flow naturally, is tough. But these apps make it even more so. I didn’t even mention half of the people using them are just creeps ! You have the guy who just did 15 years in prison , the married couple looking for a third, the married man who wants to cheat on his wife, the catfish and then the ones who don’t respond . I can tell you I’ve met up with some really attractive men and had an idea in my head of what their personality would be like and when we actually met it couldn’t have been further from what I had thought up. So this proves that looks aren’t everything and personality is key. But as I mentioned these apps make it tough because a persons appearance is the first thing we notice about them.

It makes me laugh because a lot of these people on the apps that are actually looking for relationships don’t have it in them to approach someone in person. Are we so afraid of rejection that we’ve resorted to hiding behind a phone and endlessly swiping until we think we’ve found the one? It sure as hell seems like it. Back in the day online dating was so taboo. Now just about everyone is doing it, but people are still lonely and looking. It’s obviously not working and I don’t know what the answer is but I hope they soon become a thing of the past.

How do you meet people? How do you approach someone your interested in ? Do you use the apps? Do you think dating apps are a good thing?Share your thoughts and experiences with me in the comments below.!